Your horoscope might not be important….but your personality type definitely IS. How well do you know yourself?
This was a question I was asked the second I walked into some fairly intensive therapy sessions. I said to the therapist: ‘I’m worried I might be a psychopath and I’m definitely a sociopath. People hate me. I’m always overthinking stuff. I’m worried I’m not a good person. I really long for the past. I keep making terrible decisions. I hate being around other people but I get bored if I’m on my own. I’m worried that I’m ALWAYS bored and I do really stupid stuff to make me NOT bored. I think I’m drinking too much wine and definitely too much coffee. I fancy far too many woman. I’m worried I’m going to blow up a petrol station BECAUSE I’m so bored. I really miss my career. I used to write books. I’m worried that I used to be somebody I knew and now I don’t really know who I am. I might be a love addict….oh…and I HATE pretty much everyone.’
My therapist said: ‘Do you want to sit down?’
That’s right. I said all that while I was still in the DOORWAY.
Psychotherapy is NOT for the faint hearted. These ultramarines of the mind don’t sit there like counselors, nodding politely and going ‘That must have been hard’ and ‘How did that make you feel?’. Instead, they make notes and then start blasting you with your own bullshit, picking apart everything you’ve said and driving you headfirst back into it, forcing you to look at the situation from a new perspective.
In many ways, I feel like entirely alone in the sense that I’ve never met ANYONE who is even remotely similar to me (and I guess I’m really talking about finding my ‘tribe’ here). I once met someone back in 2016 that I got really excited about beacause I thought they were REALLY similar to me…and when I discovered that they weren’t, I actually started trying to MAKE them more like I am, interpreting everything they said as the sort of thing I would say while all the time getting the creeping feeling that I was reinventing their personality completely, in my own image. The results were disastrous and now I never see them.
Your personality type is HUGELY important. Truly, it is. Before we talk about the test, let’s check out some of my own answers and what they say about me:
There are two ‘states’ of personality and sixteen ‘types’ giving you – basically – thirty two different variants. The two ‘states’ of personality are Assertive and Turbulent, breaking down as those who always know what they want (assertive) and those who never have a clue (turbulen) while the sixteen ‘types’ are The Architect, The Logician, The Commander, The Debator, The Advocate, The Mediator, The Protagonist, The Campaigner, The Logistician, The Defender, The Executive, The Consul, The Virtuoso, The Adventurer, The Entrepreneur and The Entertainer.
To find out which one you are, go HERE and take the test. Give yourself some time and make sure that you answer honestly (it can make a huge difference to fudge even one question in favour of feeling better about yourself). I’ll give you an example…
I’m actually a Virtuoso (an ISTP-T), but until recently I thought I was a Logistician. I really didn’t like being one, didn’t think it was quite right and really didn’t resonate with the description…but at the time I thought it was accurate enough. Logisitician is classified as ISTJ-T so Introverted, Observant(S in this case), Thinking and Judging (and also the Turbulent variety). I would haved shared this mantle with Sir Anthony Hopkins, Sting, Angela Merkel, Natalie Portman, George Washington, Condoleezza Rice, Denzel Washington and George HW Bush.
If you’re better at visualising fictional characters for this personality type, try Eddard Stark from Game of Thrones, Hermione Granger from Harry Potter or Geralt of Rivia from The Witcher.
However, I’m ACTUALLY (as I said above) a Virtuoso, which gives me a lot more in common with the likes of Tom Cruise (in real life) and Arya Stark (in Game of Thrones). Looking at the above, I can often see myself as a direct mixture of Anthony Hopkins, a complete loner who has in the past inspired a lot of dislike from those both close and distant to him and Tom Cruise, who is often considered an outcast because of his singularly odd charisma and his curious network of belief systems (which also fascinate me).
Go ahead and try the test – it’s particularly beneficial if you’re struggling to find out where you fit in. Let me know what you come out as, especially if you happen to be a virtuoso: we’re a really ODD bunch.
‘How Well Do You Know Yourself?’ was written by Davey Stone in April 2021.